When I asked her what was new with the new guy, she said she's looking at rings. " and "Let's wait a little longer." But as I searched for the words to give her unsolicited advice, I realized I didn't have many definitive answers to give her.
Here's the thing—you can know a person for years before you get engaged, be happily married for years after that, and then something bad can happen.
Getting to Know Someone Better For a couple who are classed as childhood sweethearts they will clearly be together a long time before they marry simply due to their age.
But what if you are childhood friends who begin to date when you are older?
I think it happened at the right time, though we would've loved to have been able to move in together right away instead of waiting a few months to buy a house together.
This was both of our second marriages, so we knew what we wanted and did not want in a partner, no need to wait years.
Divorces are easier to obtain now than they ever were, but there can still be a price to be paid for getting things wrong.
There will always be people who have heard of a couple who married after a few months and it worked out perfectly while another couple dated for years before getting engaged or married and they did not last.
Whether you date for a few months, a few years or a few decades it is hard to know what is best.
How long did you date your partner before he or she popped the question?
It may have only been months, or perhaps it felt like an eternity.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in 1979.
He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married. Couples who were unhappily married soon after they said “I do” and quickly divorced more often married at or after three years.