If your significant other is also a close coworker, your manager needs to know.
Give a brief heads-up and explain how you will keep the relationship from interfering with work. In the world of office relationships, dating an employee is the Big Blunder.
Especially if you’re that rare breed of relatively attractive cubicle dweller under the age of 40 -- aka “office hot.” You’re smart, so you already know this is a beyond horrible idea, but after the fourth or fifth round at happy hour, you literally give zero fucks, and what’s the big deal if you hook up, it’s just sex, amirite?? The less you interact at the office, the more you’re going to want to do all sorts of dirty things to each other later. It’s also totally hot to steal a kiss in the break room when no one else is watching. On a scale of 1 to worst possible decision you could make, this hovers somewhere around the worst possible decision you could make. There are ways to make this work so that neither of you end up on the wrong end of a lawsuit and/or at the unemployment office. At least until you are entirely sure that this is going to be a lasting relationship and not just some sort of taboo “sex-on-desk” fantasy that you both need to get out of your systems.
But try not to be too cavalier in case, you know, you get fired. If you do decide this is legit, there are ways to maneuver, but you’re both going to have to learn to be flexible and tolerate a lot of bullshit. They will claim you get the special treatment, even if that is entirely untrue. A lunch here and there is fine, but limit the amount of times you are in his or her office alone with the door shut, even if it is strictly business. Quitting with dignity so you can screw in sweet private bliss is also a valid option. Hopefully your friend isn’t all murderous about that whole wanting to bang (er, “date”) his sister thing, but all other examples set forth by our nation’s forebrothers show that charting these choppy waters isn’t easy.
Familiarize yourself with the types of romances that can sneak over the line into shaky legal territory.
Instead we’re here with some sound advice on how you can try to pluck these forbidden fruits without ruining your life. You spend more time on a weekly basis with these people than any other human you interact with, so sexual tension is bound to ensue. Not only are you spending eight hours a day with this person, but then you are expected to spend your free time with them.
But reality is often sadly devoid of tear-streaked confessions of love, like those on "The Office." Instead, our work relationships can be tinged with uncertainty. And it seems there's gray area aplenty at the office: Nearly 40% of workers have dated a co-worker, and one in three went on to marry a person they dated at work.
Or was he just being friendly at that client lunch? ) out of middle school, there's still an awfully large gray area--that space between what people say, what we hear them say and what they actually mean.
In actuality, the truth about workplace romance lies somewhere in the messy middle ground.
Most of us would agree that employees’ personal lives should be just that—kept personal. Furthermore, the company’s honchos don’t have the time or the desire to meddle in or monitor the personal romantic life of each employee.