because people who are sex addicts do not know how to relate in an intimate (close) relationship in an open and comfortable way.Not only are sex and intimacy detached from one another they are not even in the same neighborhood.The sex will not always be that good; it may get better or it may get worse. It's pure poetry; love magnified; a revisit to the warm womb of security.But all those lovely feelings are that of a first swim in the cool, crisp pond of falling in love. Then the negotiation between security and autonomy, that life-long struggle, crawls in and we begin to land. Landing The landing from that fantastic flight can feel scary, as we see things a lot more clearly. Burying This stage happens when all the to-do lists of life come toppling into the relationship.Also, in our culture, through "dating" people will often find a life partner and marry.How men and women view a "date" and "dating" can have a profound effect on their future."Dating" is not a relationship, it is a method people employ in our culture to get to know others of the opposite sex that was not employed in Biblical times.The Bible does not talk about "dating," but it does talk about relationships.
It is a deeper problem and that is why it is termed and intimacy .
The core relationship, most likely the relationship with the mother, was damaged early in childhood, and their basic needs were not met.
Carrying this damage into adulthood, something will emotionally trigger them back to these memories, and they will respond to their partner in the same way as they had to their mother (core relationship).
Believe it or not, grief and intimacy mirror one another—the intensity, the dullness, the gains, and the loss. Infatuation"OMG, I just met the love of my life.""He is perfect.
We've all heard of the five stages of grief according to the Kübler-Ross model: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.