I know friends and family members mean well, but those questions are uncomfortable. I need friendship, coffee, and more money in my checking account, but I don’t need fixing. Umm…because it takes two to tango and no one else has signed up for the dance class? Until then, I do not need to be constantly reminded of my single status. Dating, for practically my entire life, has been uncharted territory for me. The fact of the matter is this: my relationship status should not be your biggest priority. ” Sorry to get ranty my dear readers, but I am fed up with these kinds of questions. Sometimes I do wonder what’s wrong with me, and what the likelihood of me dying alone with 10 dogs is (- I don’t like cats). They reinforce the negative thought patterns that I am trying so hard to break: that my being single is a flaw and that I need to be fixed. I am still trying to believe that being single can be a wonderful blessing and that I need to love myself and not depend on the approval or interest of others. Sometimes I feel lonely and envy my friends who are in wonderful relationships, but I would rather not be bitter about it.Let her know how you feel and don't overdo anything.When you're with her you cannot speak right and it's as if no one else exists.“Not Dark Yet,” offers a glimpse into that understanding for the first time and finally, after years of trying to get it made, at the right time.
“Getting divorced and turning 40 made me take a look at how I lived my life for the past 16 or 17 years,” he says. A lot of times I had to drink a bottle of whiskey just to get through the show.
Instead no recordings emerged for five and a half years, as he wrestled with a painful divorce, a 40th birthday and fundamental questions about what kind of artist he wanted to be.
He now says that both the divorce and the creative hiatus were caused—not entirely but in crucial ways—by the debilitating effects of life on the road.
“They say, ‘Boy, you ain’t a poet, just a drunk with a band,’” he sang with comic exaggeration over a bouncy Texas two step. I used to have heart but the highway took it.” It was a wonderfully funny and catchy song. KMAG YOYO was Carll’s breakthrough album, landing in the top 20 of Billboard’s country and rock charts.
Everyone expected a follow-up album of similarly witty, bouncy numbers within a year or a two.