But I’ve noticed a new strategy among my set of female friends—lovely, intelligent, independent women—to combat the grime of the online dating world: date up. More and more women I know are dating men twice, yes , Anne Hathaway stands with Robert De Niro and a bunch of young male colleagues in a bar and draws a harsh comparison: “How in one generation have men gone from guys like Jack Nicholson and Harrison Ford to . I see what Hathaway means: Why put up with Tinder when there’s a whole generation of men out there who wouldn’t dream of using it?
There have never been more advantages to relationships with older men, precisely because Tinder and its ilk have made dating feel impossible to those of us who don’t want to participate in the battle of who-cares-less.
Basically, the stereotype that older men go for young women is “too crude,” said researcher Jan Antfolk, of Abo Akademi University, in Turku, Finland.“Sure, some older men have a strong preference for clearly younger women, but most tend to also find older women attractive,” Antfolk said.“An interesting finding is that as men age, they become less picky about age,” he added.These men tend to be way more well-established and courteous, they’re chivalrous and you’ll never hear the words, “let’s hang out” ever again.They’ve also spent enough time in the dating world to know exactly what they like and what turns them off.They are twenty years apart, and they’ve been together for two. “I watch so many of my other friends agonize over text messages from guys who . It’s not an “old-fashioned” dating scheme, it’s just a more humane one.“I wasn’t trying to go back in time,” Gabrielle added at the end of our conversation.